In the past few weeks, CJ has been acting out...a lot. He has been disrespectful, defiant and downright mean. He has refused to follow directions, he picks on Alex and he has gotten into trouble at school. It's embarrassing and frustrating. We have tried so many different techniques for redirection and discipline, but nothing has worked.
I realize that this is most likely due to the changes our family has gone through over the past four months. Everyone responds in their own time and in their own way. We were told that transition issues tend to show up about three months after placement (which is exactly when CJ started having trouble). I believe he is acting out in order to get attention from us. Our attention has been divided by three, and he is looking for any way possible to get us to focus on him, even if it means that he is getting in trouble.
This breaks my heart.
My once sweet little boy has become very angry.
I knew that the addition of two boys would bring some difficult times, I just didn't realize how hard it would be on CJ. It's easy to read articles and think through how it will go, but to actually live it is complete different. I don't think I could have prepared myself for what we've experienced.
Do you know how hard it is watching your son act out in response to choices you made? Can you imagine the amount of guilt I feel because this is "my fault?" I feel terrible that we didn't do more to prepare for CJ's reaction to all of this. I hate that he is getting in trouble and I am afraid that he'll develop a reputation.
Right now, I am desperate to find something that works. I want to fix it...now. I know that time is going to be the best solution in this case, although we will continue with our methods and discipline techniques. Right now, I am just grateful that he has teachers that love him and are patiently guiding him through this confusing time.
I'd appreciate your prayers, both for CJ and all those working with him.
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