Too cliche?

An adoption Facebook group posted a question this morning to adoptive parents, and it got me thinking. The question was:

Your child asks you, "Why did you adopt me?" How do you respond?

As I read through the answers, they bothered me a little. With one exception, they were all basically the same. "You had been growing in our hearts." "We needed you in our family." "We prayed and God gave you to us." "We loved you before we knew you, and then you joined our family."

Don't get me wrong, all of those answers are true and from the heart. I just feel like they are a little too cliche. Obviously, when CJ asks me this question, my response will depend on his age. However, I feel like if a child is aware enough to ask the question, they are probably mature enough for a deeper answer. But, how much is too much? At what age do I acknowledge that we are not able to have biological children. When do I share that his birthmom simply wasn't able to care for him?

I think I have some time before CJ really starts asking questions, but it can't hurt to think about it now. As always, my best bet is simply to take it to God. I am already praying that we handle it appropriately when the time comes. I ask God regularly to give us the words and wisdom to help CJ understand his adoption and work through any issues that may arise.

Maybe those answers are too cliche, but maybe there is such a thing as too much information...I just hope I find the right balance when the time comes.